Women, like men, know very quickly if they will make love with someone. So going on dates, or trying to "win over" someone is pointless when things have already been decided early on. The only reason people do it is out of a need to adhere to a social norm. In other words, they feel compelled to do what society expects of them before getting intimate. Well screw that!

If there's one thing that will kill passion it's prolonged formal interaction. It's the scripted-ness of the whole thing that kills. It is not natural. The dating and entertainment industry would say otherwise though. This industry loves to tout the importance of getting to know someone in a formal date environment such as dinner, movies, theater, etc. It's done under the facade of treating someone "right". But it's a trap. Don't fall for it.

If you feel like doing these things out of your own free will, great. But there's no reason to do them just so you can make love with someone. It will be a waste of time and will stand a good chance of "sterilizing" the interaction. Better to keep the meeting short before getting intimate. This way you're not lying to yourself.